Hey sister, my name is Ada.

That woman in the photo? She was finally learning that her needs, her desires, and her NO deserved a place in her own life.

But let’s rewind a bit.

In my twenties, I married a man with all the red flags. Then I spent almost a decade as a single mom moving through painful, embarrassing, and heartbreaking situationships. Eventually, I had to look at something I’d been avoiding: I kept abandoning myself to make relationships work.

I knew how to be understanding. How to give more, need less, and find a reason to stay. What I didn’t know was how to take my own discomfort seriously without needing someone else to agree that I had a good enough reason.

And that pattern reached far beyond dating. It was in my first marriage. My work life. With friends. In my parenting. It was everywhere and inside I was lonely and exhausted.

I went back to school and studied neuroscience, habit change, conflict, and communication. I became a certified civil mediator. But I was done gathering understanding without anything actually changing my life, so I began my experiments: taking what I was learning and practicing it.

I turned my life into one big lab experiment. After all, everything I had been doing was clearly not working- what could I lose by trying some new things? The key? Starting small and being intentional about what to try and why.

I stopped making being loved more important than being honest with myself.

Along the way, I met my husband, David. Six years of marriage, three more babies, two cats, and twelve chickens later, I’m still practicing what I teach—in marriage, motherhood, family, and business.

Today, I help women who are DONE settling for relationships, work and love that cost them themselves.

Because you can understand your patterns and still find yourself saying yes when you mean no. You can know you deserve better and still struggle to choose it. You can try a boundary and get hit with a wave of guilt that puts you right back into self abandonment.

That’s where my work comes in: helping you turn what you know into what you actually do. To trust your voice, honor your needs, and build relationships where there’s room for YOU, too.

Healthy love starts with your relationship with YOU.